School Shoutout 🎉
This school year, Darryll visited Bradford High School, and Danny visited Tippecanoe High School.. Check out their message to you!
In Your Words
Check out what your friends have to say!
“The best part was when he talked about boundaries. He made us well aware that we can say no and to not be afraid to say no to something that makes you uncomfortable.”
“When we learned the real definition of groomers, I realized that many of my friends could be considered groomers. That is not okay with me and I should be more aware of it.”
“He really taught me a lot about my current relationships and things to watch for in them. I learned about the importance of boundaries and respecting myself.”
“I liked when we learned what a groomer is because the meaning gets mixed up on the internet and I’m glad we are educated on what it actually means.”
“I learned that I need to be less avoidant in situations, love myself, and that I should set standards and know my morals.”
“I plan to think through more things, such as activities I may get into while in high school.”
How Strong Are Your Boundaries?🚫🚫🚫
Answer the following questions, then check out the Rules for Good Boundaries below!
1. Do you feel taken advantage of by those around you?
2. Do you agree with others to avoid conflict?
3. Do you often overshare with those around you?
4. Are your relationships like rollercoasters, either awesome or awful?
5. Do you put the needs of others before your needs?
6. Do you feel you put more effort into a relationship than your partner?
7. Is expressing your feelings uncomfortable?
8. Do you feel that your feelings don’t matter?
9. Are you afraid to tell others NO?
10. Do you often make decisions based on the opinions of others?
Boundaries Activity 🏆
Based on what you’ve learned, in which of these boundary circles do the following people belong?
1. Store Cashier
2. Boyfriend / Girlfriend
3. Best Friend
6. Delivery Person
10. Close Family Member
Rules for Good Boundaries
Different kinds of relationships have different kinds of boundaries. Your physical, emotional and sexual boundaries with your parents and siblings are different than the boundaries you have with friends. The boundaries you set with a stranger should be different than the boundaries you have with classmates or coworkers.
1. Length of Time
How long have you known this person? How long is long enough before a stranger becomes a friend? How do you decide?
2. Knowledge About the Other Person
What, and how much, do you really know about this person? Some important things to know about someone when you are considering dating are:
- How does this person react when given “no” for an answer?
- How does this person handle frustrations and disappointments?
- How does he or she express anger?
- How does this person treat his or her parents?
- How does this person speak about and treat the people they have dated?
- How can this knowledge help you make good choices in a relationship?
3. Sharing Activities
How many different kinds of activities have you shared together? What are they? How have these experiences helped you get to know the other person better?
4. Amount of Self-Disclosure
How much personal information have you shared? How much has the other person shared? Are you comfortable with the sharing? Why or why not? Is the amount of information shared between the two of you balanced? Are you both learning things about one another?
5. Number of Different Experiences
What has this person experienced in life? How has it affected him or her? What can this person’s experiences tell you about him or her?
6. Role Appropriate
We all have certain roles in life. Some roles are not compatible for dating or friendship relationships. Teachers shouldn’t date students; doctors shouldn’t date patients, etc. What role does this person have in your life?
7. Age Appropriate
As a teen, friendships or dating relationships with those more than two years older or younger than you can be harmful. What is the age difference between you? If it is greater than two years, how could this be harmful?
8. Level of Reciprocal Trust
Can you trust this person? How do you know? Are you worthy of his or her trust? Why? How do you know when someone is trustworthy? What happens when trust is broken?
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